I also find the 'stop growing up' comments very jarring. I completely understand this comes from a very innocent place, but when you've been faced with a silent, motionless, familiar shape on a sonographer's screen and the devastating words that come along with it you know that to watch someone grow - to be a part of all these beautiful milestones - is a privilege and a gift xx
Definitely resonates! Back-to-school season is hard even though I have my daughter and know that she will be starting kindergarten next school year and I will have those first day of school pictures too. If our first pregnancy hadn’t ended in loss we would now have an 8 year old starting 3rd grade. It also stings when I see other kids her age taking their back to school pics with their younger siblings, especially my friend that was pregnant at the same time as me in 2021 and had her 5 year old and 2.5 year old in the pictures. I think I have a harder time at this time of year already because of my first loss being in September of 2015, so back to school season is exacerbating those feelings of grief.
I also find the 'stop growing up' comments very jarring. I completely understand this comes from a very innocent place, but when you've been faced with a silent, motionless, familiar shape on a sonographer's screen and the devastating words that come along with it you know that to watch someone grow - to be a part of all these beautiful milestones - is a privilege and a gift xx
Definitely resonates! Back-to-school season is hard even though I have my daughter and know that she will be starting kindergarten next school year and I will have those first day of school pictures too. If our first pregnancy hadn’t ended in loss we would now have an 8 year old starting 3rd grade. It also stings when I see other kids her age taking their back to school pics with their younger siblings, especially my friend that was pregnant at the same time as me in 2021 and had her 5 year old and 2.5 year old in the pictures. I think I have a harder time at this time of year already because of my first loss being in September of 2015, so back to school season is exacerbating those feelings of grief.