This was amazing. I am so glad your book is coming out in paperback (sounds like a good birthday present I can pick out for my husband to get me since my birthday is in November) because I do want to read it after reading basically everything you’ve written on Substack this year.
There is so much to think about from your post, so I am going to head to my own newsletter to write more about what I want to say about my own experience. The times you have inspired me to work through some things this year are countless, and finding your substack has enriched my emotional life. Thank you so much for your work- the way it resonates with me is unmatched by anything else I’ve ever read about miscarriage.
I ended up getting the hardback for Christmas from my mom and read it in two days! Thank you for your substack and your book- they are both so well-written and have resonated with me more than what I have read from other authors. I especially appreciated the part of your book where you wrote about all the conflicting feelings during the first few months of motherhood- everyone thought that all I would be is happy after waiting for so many years, but while we were happy, it was also a tough adjustment and even more so when she was 5 months old and COVID isolated us from seeing anyone outside of the daycare/work bubble. Our experience was not the same as many others because I continued to work but not seeing my sister/her boys or my parents when I was used to being with them all the time was so weird.
Thank you so much, Laura. I'm so glad the book resonated with you! (And especially that part - it felt quite hard to write at the time, wondering if people would find it anti-climatic or dispiriting, rather than a more conventional happily ever after. But it also felt important to be honest). Hope you've had a happy Christmas/holiday season. xxx
I’ve always found it tricky to balance how I talk about motherhood after infertility in general because it’s not as simple as having that happily ever after moment once she was born. I was still very in shock that she was finally here for a few days and was so freaked out I was going to screw something up- it’s funny to me that I ended up becoming an infant teacher and after 3 years with the 6-12 month olds am now the one reassuring all the anxious first time parents that they are doing great!
Thank you! We’ve had a good Christmas (I had this week off, and my husband had a few days off but is working this weekend), and my daughter and I enjoyed going to Target/Barnes and Noble yesterday to use our gift cards. We enjoyed spending time with my family and his; my great nephew is now 3 months old, so my niece was very sweet with her excitement about his first Christmas.
This was amazing. I am so glad your book is coming out in paperback (sounds like a good birthday present I can pick out for my husband to get me since my birthday is in November) because I do want to read it after reading basically everything you’ve written on Substack this year.
There is so much to think about from your post, so I am going to head to my own newsletter to write more about what I want to say about my own experience. The times you have inspired me to work through some things this year are countless, and finding your substack has enriched my emotional life. Thank you so much for your work- the way it resonates with me is unmatched by anything else I’ve ever read about miscarriage.
I ended up getting the hardback for Christmas from my mom and read it in two days! Thank you for your substack and your book- they are both so well-written and have resonated with me more than what I have read from other authors. I especially appreciated the part of your book where you wrote about all the conflicting feelings during the first few months of motherhood- everyone thought that all I would be is happy after waiting for so many years, but while we were happy, it was also a tough adjustment and even more so when she was 5 months old and COVID isolated us from seeing anyone outside of the daycare/work bubble. Our experience was not the same as many others because I continued to work but not seeing my sister/her boys or my parents when I was used to being with them all the time was so weird.
Thank you so much, Laura. I'm so glad the book resonated with you! (And especially that part - it felt quite hard to write at the time, wondering if people would find it anti-climatic or dispiriting, rather than a more conventional happily ever after. But it also felt important to be honest). Hope you've had a happy Christmas/holiday season. xxx
I’ve always found it tricky to balance how I talk about motherhood after infertility in general because it’s not as simple as having that happily ever after moment once she was born. I was still very in shock that she was finally here for a few days and was so freaked out I was going to screw something up- it’s funny to me that I ended up becoming an infant teacher and after 3 years with the 6-12 month olds am now the one reassuring all the anxious first time parents that they are doing great!
Thank you! We’ve had a good Christmas (I had this week off, and my husband had a few days off but is working this weekend), and my daughter and I enjoyed going to Target/Barnes and Noble yesterday to use our gift cards. We enjoyed spending time with my family and his; my great nephew is now 3 months old, so my niece was very sweet with her excitement about his first Christmas.